90 Day Fiance: The Other Way has officially concluded its third season.
The Tell All special aired on Sunday, December 5, oddly not premiering on Discovery Plus until the afternoon.
Ariela and Biniyam were there together, discussing a lot of family drama.
Sumit and Jenny had plans to reveal their marital status to Sumit’s parents for the first time.
Steven had some painful confessions, and Alina was begged on air to leave him before he repeats this behavior.
Victor and Ellie made up, in part, for a lackluster storyline by serving great face at the Tell All.
And then Hiromi came out and reminded everyone that Ellie has sensible people in her life.
Kenneth and Armando had a lot to discuss, and their entire extended family was brought into it.
Corey was on “thin ice” going into this, Evelin said. During the Tell All, that ice began to crack.
Take a look at this detailed recap below:
1.
The cast arrives
Victor is, notably, physically in New York — unlike some of his castmates, including two Americans, who are tuning in from other continents.
2.
Steven Johnston is bracing himself
He knows that he is going to be the target of a lot of roasting. He’s right … but he also may be underestimating how people feel.
3.
Jenny Slatten and Sumit Singh
After three seasons, this OG couple married in India … but kept the wedding a secret from Sumit’s parents. Many weeks or even months later, they are taking part in the Tell All from India. Sumit’s parents still do not know.
4.
Corey is still on thin ice
Participating from Ecuador, Corey and Evelin are still together and of course still married. They do admit that things aren’t easy, and Corey is on “thin ice” because — as this season has aired — Evelin has had some truly upsetting revelations. Corey had months to tell Evelin everything that he had said and done on camera, and instead, Evelin was learning things watching the episodes just like the rest of us.
5.
On the stage …
As the cast fills in, Steven tells Evelin that this is the most “modest” of an outfit that he has seen her wear. Absolutely deranged of him.
6.
Shaun’s face says it all
It seems like Steven came to the Tell All with the idea that he needed to pick fights with castmates (to be fair, production encourages this strongly), but this weird attempt to neg Evelin only reflected poorly on him. First of all, don’t talk about Evelin’s clothes. Second of all, outside of toxic purity culture, telling someone that their outfit is “modest” is not a compliment, it just makes you sound like you’re in a cult.
7.
Ariela Weinberg and Biniyam walk out last
Sometimes, the show will save the most dramatic couple for last, but despite Ariela and Biniyam having no shortage of drama, they were not the center of focus on this Tell All. This did give Evelin a chance to compliment Ariela’s look, a welcome counter to some cruel things that some viewers have said on social media.
8.
BUT they have big news
Right off the bat, they confirm to Shaun that Bini got his K-1 visa and he and Ariela are living in the United States now. Normally, there would be way more questions about this, but since they’re almost certainly filming for another season in the franchise, they don’t provide many updates. However, Ari does reveal that she returned to Ethiopia despite her vow, and was there for Bini’s visa interview after all.
9.
Steven “jokes” that he’s the worst person in the room
He then tries to turn this joke on Corey, who in turn jests that he’s not actually in the room with him. Not to be uncool, but really neither of them have a lot of moral high ground when it comes to how they treat their wives.
10.
Shaun asks Steven if he stopped messaging other girls
This should be an easy answer. He married Alina in Turkey and moved to Russia with her. He deleted his Facebook account to stop girls from messaging him (not the point, but WHO is using Facebook to flirt in 2021, and why is a 25-year-old of all people doing this?) and made a formal commitment to her. So why is it that, instead of saying “of course I am not messaging other girls,” he started asking Alina in Russian if he can confess the truth?
11.
Steven chatted with NINE girls a WEEK ago
Okay, so various young women were sliding into his DMs, probably for a while now, some of whom were sending photos — including topless photos, including fully nude photos. A week ago, he confesses, he and Alina had been in a fight, so he started responding and “encouraging” the attention.
12.
Steven even sent his own pics
Now, Steven’s photos weren’t nude, he says, but in frankly more detail than anyone asked for, he says that he sent photos of his long tongue while admitting that he didn’t know how to use it. The implications are obviously sexual, and unbecoming of a married man.
13.
Alina is all too aware
Apparently these girls sent screenshots of their conversations with Steven to Alina, who was once again devastated by yet another betrayal by the man she loves.
14.
Steven was warned about this
Not all of the cast from this season know each other, but some do. Kenneth and Armando had chatted with Steven and Alina before the season aired. Kenneth had warned Steven about this — noting that even he, a married gay man, ended up with photos of naked women in his DMs. He was warned to never respond or encourage this. Steven clearly did not take that to heart.
15.
Why did this happen yet again?
Steven says that he has a lot of sexual energy and some repression going on (something that we have been talking about almost all season). He also says that “for some reason” he wants to have a threesome. This is so much. Obviously, threesomes are normal — some people have a whole bunch while others never have them, but it’s a fine thing to desire. But what’s not okay is the implication that Steven would like for Alina to agree to one. There are a lot of wild oats that Steven could have sewn before dating, getting engaged, or marrying.
16.
Evelin is right
Steven is not being fair to Alina in many ways. This is not what she signed up for.
17.
Armando speaks up
He shares that he grew up as a Mormon, something that viewers did not previously know. (Many had errantly assumed that Armando’s family was Catholic, something that Kenneth corrected months ago when both he and Jenny Slatten were targeted by a strange and malicious screed) Armando noted that it’s normal to have sexual desires, but says that it’s wildly hypocritical of him to push his faith on Alina while betraying all of these tenets himself.
18.
Corey backs him up
Speaking as a bit of a lapsed Mormon, Corey emphasizes how he is not representing himself as a devout Mormon, active in the church, while making his own mistakes — where Steven has made this central to the relationship.
19.
“One time, Nelson Mandela was asked if he was a saint”
Steven characterized himself as a “sinner who keeps on trying,” in keeping with the famous South African leader’s words, which is … stunning.
20.
Whatever they’re paying Shaun, it can’t be enough
Shaun sat there and listened to Steven explain his behavior by quoting a civil rights icon. Could you do that and still remain professional?
21.
Never-before-seen footage
Filmed before Steven went to Turkey but not played until now, Steven met up with his ex-girlfriend, Vanessa for advice … but that’s not what he got. On camera, she called him out for having messaged her about her looks and photos while in a relationship, not telling her that he was in this relationship. It’s obvious why this footage didn’t play at the start of the season, because it would have effectively been a spoiler for who Steven is.
22.
Vanessa was at the Tell All
In a compassionate tone aimed at Alina, she explained exactly what it was like dating Steven. They dated for months when she, who was also raised Mormon, was undergoing a faith crisis. During that time, he traveled to Russia, and she gave him permission to date while there but asked him to not go all the way with anyone. Steven had sex with three different women in Russia and then confessed it to her upon his return.
23.
Vanessa encourages Alina to walk away
She says that she know that divorce is hard after making a commitment, but encourages her that doing so is not wrong because this is not what Alina signed up for. From Vanessa’s point of view, it looks like Steven’s behavior has gotten worse, not better. Alina is holding onto hope that Steven loves her enough that he will change, however.
24.
Ariela calls out Steven
In a gentle tone, emphasizing that he’s “not a freak” or anything like that, Ari tells Steven that what he’s doing isn’t fair to Alina.
25.
Steven tries to turn this back on her
He tells her that these are bold words from a woman who “abandoned” Bini. That of course is baseless. She took her baby for surgery and then returned to Africa to meet with Biniyam. He took a plane to Ethiopia but she did return there to help with his interview, despite her previous vow to not do so. Now they’re living together in the US. Where is the abandonment?
26.
This is all so hard on Alina
On screen, she is visibly in tears. It is one thing to endure and process betrayals from someone you love. It is another to hear them so cavalierly explain it all on television, in front of your castmates in footage that will soon be seen by millions, and hear your problems catalogued by others.
27.
Vanessa hopes that her words take root
She knows that Alina is insisting that she will stay with Steven and give him another chance, but it breaks her heart to see her go through this. Vanessa is clearly a compassionate young woman.
28.
Ari is a bit more direct
She says that if Steven is intent upon exploring sexual experiences, he needs to let go of Alina so that she can live her own life. She’s right — and Steven has to choose.
29.
On to Jenny Slatten and Sumit Singh
As the proper Tell All resumes after a break, the cast applauds Jenny and Sumit to congratulate them on getting married.
30.
They haven’t told his parents yet
However, the plan is that they might tell Sumit’s parents at the Tell All … though that’s not certain.
31.
Sadhna and Anil tune in
Sumit’s parents (until very recently, Sumit’s mom’s name was reported as Sahna and not Sadhna, but it is assumed that this updated spelling is the correct one) dialed in remotely to participate, just like their son and (little do they know) daughter-in-law.
32.
Sumit’s brother and his sister-in-law are also there
Amit and Sharee have at times been a voice of moderation in the family, but they are thoroughly Team Parents these days and are also unaware of Sumit and Jenny’s marital status.
33.
During Season 3, Sadhna and Anil seemed to come around
However, on screen, the cast watched footage of Anil — AFTER the astrologer meeting — saying that the relationship should end.
34.
Sumit witnessed the change in attitude in real time
One moment, he describes, Sadhna was telling him that she would no longer stand in his way.
35.
Then, things changed
Suddenly, Sumit recalls, his mother was telling him to send Jenny away and come back home and live with her.
36.
Sumit’s parents get defensive
According to them, they’re not really interfering because they’re not stopping them from living together.